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Keeping things in perspective when things go wrong

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Normally when I write articles I am in a good space .............but not today! So what a great opportunity to practice what I preach! First things first Identify what the specific difficulty is (what happened). So now you have identified the cause of the problem actually FEEL and notice how it makes you feel, rather than shove it down or ignore it. It helps me to write down simple words, so in my case today I am feeling, frustrated, angry, disappointed, confused and upset. Just a few words describing how You ACTUALLY feel. Second stage Ok, now I have felt that feeling, it's important to look at what can I do about it. Are there any actions I need to take or is the situation out of my control? Well for me today, it really is out of my control. I have done as much as I can do (sitting and thinking about the problem just makes me feel worse). If there are any actions that need to be taken (write them down) start with the next right thing and slowly work through them. In my case its to write this article then continue my job list (which always helps me to feel better when I have ticked stuff off). Third stage How important is it anyway? Sometimes I spend time worrying about stuff that is not really that important. Look at what REALLY is important .....health, well being, family, a roof over my head, some food and water if I need it and so on. Lastly, go for a walk in nature get some fresh air, look at what you can be grateful for (my three sons have left home, yippee, it stays tidy all the time) do a kind deed for someone (I just made my husbands lunchbox) put some nice music on, ring a friend (a problem shared is a problem halved). I spoke with a lady just now who's husband recently died after 50 years of marriage (that really puts it in perspective as I still have my husband). Also be kind to yourself, we are all great at beating ourselves up so imagine you where saying something encouraging to yourself which will make you smile. (In my case I am saying, well done Sandra you have written an article which might help someone else feel better today). I have to say I do feel a lot better now so shall go and have a well earned lunch break!

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This article was written by Sandra Crathern of Innavision


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This article was written by Sandra Crathern, a passionate NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) Master Practitioner/Life Coach/Trained Nurse. Having worked in a Doctors Surgery for 12 years she noticed that many of her patients wanted to have a healthy life style but felt unable to action it, "The how too" was missing. She has faced some serious life problems of her own until she discovered a Life coach. This had a PROFOUND effect on her life. So much so that she decided to re-train and to help others in a similar situation find the answers.



She swapped professions 4 years ago and as a result of some intensive work on herself and the skills NLP has given her, she is completely free of the issues she had, and now have the skills/tools to assist others on their own journeys.



She firmly believes her service empowers her client to make responsible choices and gives them control over their lives. If you want to learn more about Sandra's service call her now.

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